Eight Must-Dos Now That You're Single For The First Time
Knowing what to do and how is difficult for the newly widowed / divorced woman, especially when she's over forty. Whether she became a widow by door or by death, the questions are very often the same:
- What do I do with my life now?
- How do I go it alone?
- Where do I find the strength?
The first eight MUSTS, now that you're single for the first time, if doable for you, will infuse you with new life.
1. Find your very own space and let NO ONE invade it. Why? Because you need uninterrupted space to think, re-discover or reinvent yourself. Sometimes, however, women are so exhausted and grief stricken, this #1 is not possible right away. In that case, she’d need to be in a safe, protected environment with a cropped select few people, perhaps her children. Rest may be the order for many months before energy comes to re-discover or to re-invent anything at all. Grief is exhausting and debilitating. Pick your space carefully.
2. You must not date for at least a year
3. Travel as far into the world as your courage will allow, as often as you can afford
4. After all the grief or bitterness has gone, dig deep into your experience and help a young married couple. It's been said that if your marriage fell apart you couldn't possibly tell another married couple anything. LIES. Because yours crumbled you have much that will help another (minus the attitude, please)
5. Develop your own; discover foods you didn’t know you preferred; activities that make you feel strong and fulfilled, places you like to visit that make you smile and bring you peace
6. Take up Public Speaking. It is an extreme strengthener and confidence builder
7. Understand what it is to make money on your own and how to make it work for you
8. Get to a place where you have total independence; no leaning on ANYONE for ANYTHING at all. PERIOD. Instead, you become a GIVER extraordinaire.
author of Single For The First Time, Over Forty Under Divorce, 2014
Published by WestBow Press
By MARK KENNEDY
NEW YORK (AP) —
For Ruby Dee, acting and activism weren't contradictory things. They were inseparable, and they were intertwined.
The African-American actress, who earned lead roles in movies and on Broadway, also spent her life fighting against injustice, even emceeing the 1963 March on Washington and protesting apartheid in South Africa.
"We are image makers. Why can't we image makers become peacemakers, too?" she asked after she and her husband, Ossie Davis, accepted the Screen Actors Guild Award for Lifetime Achievement in 2000.
Read More: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/12/ruby-dee-dead_n_5488708.html?utm_hp_ref=black-voices
Baby Boomers - Now and Tomorrow
Today’s Senior Magazine
As a chronicle of the Baby Boomer Generation, it is interesting to observe Baby Boomers now, and comment on the future of the Baby Boomer Generation. Three things are paramount. Baby Boomers are more concerned about Health and Wellness, then ever before. Second, Baby Boomers still have a great deal to contribute to society, and third they spend their time navigating the waters of generational issues.
Baby Boomers expect to live longer, and still believe they are relevant. As a generation many are involved in second careers and some even are starting a business. Many Baby Boomers try to find the delicate balance of travel, which remains high on the Baby Boomer,"bucket list," with the issues of family. Many Baby Boomers are coping with caring for elderly parents, while still maintaining a watchful eye on their children.
Further, Baby Boomers are still looking for new experiences. The dream like mental edge, always so part of the psyche of members of the Baby Boomer Generation, are part of the hearts and minds of this unique group of people, born between, 1946-1964.This is a generation with history, where Baby Boomers like to look back into their past while shaping the future.It is a generation that has a spot light on the future. Baby Boomers more than ever are thinking about their financial future, their nest egg, and places to call home.
As I continue to write about, and do commentary about my generation it is clear to me, Baby Boomers have a great amount of history to still write.
Do you weigh more than you did ten years ago, or even five years ago? The extra pounds snuck up on you, accumulated gradually before you even realized it, and now you’re looking at some serious extra poundage. But that’s to be expected as you get older, right?
Putting on excess weight is very common for a number of reasons, but it’s not necessarily an inevitable part of the aging process — as it could put your health at risk. If you understand why you tend to gain weight more easily as you get older, you can do something about it before it becomes a problem for your health.
You can blame a lot of your weight gain on your metabolism. Beginning as early as your mid-twenties, body fat begins to increase while muscle mass decreases. And less muscle mass translates into a slower metabolic rate. Muscle mass decreases from about 45 percent of your total body weight in your youth to about 27 percent by the time you reach age 70. And the drop in hormones that accompanies menopause also precipitates a decrease in muscle mass, triggering even more weight gain for women. Your body fat, meanwhile, can double, even if your weight remains the same.
The bottom line is that you burn fewer calories in your 50s, 60s, or 70s doing the same activities, and the same number of them, that you did in your 20s, 30s, or 40s. The key to preventing weight gain is to compensate by adjusting your food intake, exercising, and generally becoming more physically active.
Now that you have made the decision to lose weight, it’s time to figure how much weight you need to lose.
Read More: http://blackdoctor.org/313/weight-loss-aging/
By Jason Shubnell
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AABoomers.com is an online magazinefor and about the 9.1 million African-American Baby Boomers, those born between 1946 and 1964. (We are honored that President and Mrs. Obama as members of our demographic.) (Click here to read more.)